{"id":4185,"date":"2016-06-09T11:19:39","date_gmt":"2016-06-09T17:19:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ramblindan.org\/?p=4185"},"modified":"2016-06-12T10:52:21","modified_gmt":"2016-06-12T16:52:21","slug":"complaining","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/?p=4185","title":{"rendered":"Complaining"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"squeeky\"<\/a>I was going to say, \u201cI hate to complain\u201d but then I realized that wasn\u2019t true. Sometimes I love to complain. Complaining is the motivator for change. The problem is to complain and then do nothing more. I think a complaint should be a personal call to action. I am talking about my complaints which by their very nature of being mine, are perfectly justified. I can\u2019t claim that about OPC (other peoples complaints)\u2026<\/p>\n

I have personally discovered that there are almost always an alternative for the things that annoy me. I don\u2019t always want or like the alternative, but I know it exists. Its like complaining about my terrible life, I can always end it. No\u2026 I am not really going to take that alternative. Just illustrating a severe alternative. By the way, my life is NOT terrible.<\/p>\n

I can complain about pot holes in the road. If I complain to myself or my spouse, that isn\u2019t going to fix the pot holes. I could pick up a shovel and fix them myself. If it was my private road then that makes sense. If it a public road, I could still do it myself, but that may not be a good solution. Complaints have to be targeted to the folks that have the ability to create change. Otherwise it is just a lot of noise coming out of my mind and mouth.<\/p>\n

Most of the time I am not \u201cout to change the whole world\u201d with my complaints. Life is too short for me to be that kind of activist. Most of the time I only want to change the experience that has created my reason to complain.<\/p>\n

Rather than enjoy the weather, I could complain about the cold and winter snow in Ohio. I can move to Texas where there is little of that to complain about. But then, what little there is may still raise a complaint. So move farther south…<\/p>\n

If I complain about quality of brand X peanut butter, My complaint is mostly to inform others of my opinion of the product. Most reasonable makers of things want to know too. If enough voices agree and also complain, then perhaps Brand X will change its product. But where I live, in a land of choice and plenty, the real solution for me is to spend my money on a brand I like. That is what free enterprise is all about. It\u2019s called, \u201cputting your money where your mouth is.\u201d<\/p>\n

That is not a literal statement. It means back up what I say with appropriate action. If I don\u2019t like brand X then I don\u2019t eat it. I make a reasonable and appropriate change within my personal sphere of freedom of choice. A fanatical action like smashing every jar of brand X I can find is not an appropriate to resolve my complaint.<\/p>\n

Sometime there is no choice. It\u2019s a fact of life. The point then, is that constant complaining is not going to change an unalterable fact of life. Complaining can be \u201cworn out\u201d if it used without expectation or ability of change.<\/p>\n

Complaining about my peripheral neuropathy to everyone around is not going to change the fact of life I have it. I find ways to work around the limitations without complaint. I have the power of how hard or how far I push my limitations. If I over do it, I know what I have to endure. No one to blame but myself. The people I love already know and don\u2019t need to hear me complain.<\/p>\n

A good life requires managing the things you can change and knowing the things that you can not change. I am always encourage by the vast number of things, conditions and experiences I can change. An urge to complain is my indication to investigate what I can actually do about it.<\/p>\n

If I need help I can ask or look for it. I feel a complaint is not a good substitute for a request.<\/p>\n

\u201cI can\u2019t find the dang car keys, they\u2019re hiding!\u201d, is a statement that sounds like a complaint. \u201cWhat did you do with them?\u201d, is definitely an accusation aimed at others. Tis k…Tis k\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cHon\u2026 Do you know where the keys are?\u201d is a request for help. Oh, if life was only so perfect\u2026 and I could practice it so well\u2026 Ha!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I was going to say, \u201cI hate to complain\u201d but then I realized that wasn\u2019t true. Sometimes I love to complain. Complaining is the motivator for change. The problem is to complain and then do nothing more. I think a complaint should be a personal call to action. I am talking about my complaints which by their very nature of being mine, are perfectly justified. I can\u2019t claim that about OPC (other peoples complaints)\u2026 I...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[92,49,160],"class_list":["post-4185","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-musing","tag-culture","tag-customer-satisfaction","tag-thought"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4185","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4185"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4185\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4185"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4185"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ramblindan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4185"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}